The Ultimate Guide to Hand Jobs

Hand jobs are a woman's secret weapon: they are often overlooked, but if you pay attention, they can be a great opportunity to show off your sexual skills. But how many of us just jerk mechanically up and down, or worse, ignore this option completely in favor of other activities? Clever women know that our hands are agile, versatile, and capable of producing a cornucopia of unique sensations. Men who've received a world-class hand job often remember it as the most intense orgasm of their lives.

The pluses of a masterful hand job are many. Once you appreciate the skill involved, the HJ can come in handy (if you'll pardon the expression) in all number of ways. It can be a nice way to help him out when you're not up for more involved sexual activity; this is great for couples with mismatched libidos. Hand jobs are also useful in settings where it's difficult get into position for sex or oral sex—in tents, cars, or stairwells, for example.

On the safer sex scale, hand jobs rank as fairly low-risk. There is no chance of pregnancy with a hand job, as long as ejaculate is kept away from your vagina. And because bodily fluids only come in contact with your skin and not your more delicate mucous membranes, the hand job is very low risk for STD transmission (provided your skin is free of cuts or breaks).

So how to start reaping the rewards of a job well done? An average hand job is easy to give, but to set yourself apart, follow our expert's guide.

Preparation

A hand job is a pretty low-maintenance activity, but taking a few extra steps can elevate it to an art form. To give a really first-class HJ, make sure you've got everything in place.

1. Know your way around. Many women take male anatomy for granted—there's a penis and some balls, right? You can separate yourself from the pack by being aware of the finer points of his anatomy.

The penis consists of the head (the top part, sometimes compared to a mushroom cap) and the shaft. The shaft of his penis is actually not particularly sensitive. It is usually responsive to firm pressure, but light strokes on the shaft won't get you very far.

The head of his penis is much more sensitive than the shaft. There are more nerve endings here and he's more likely to respond to a variety of sensations. There are also a couple of hot spots to be aware of around the head. First is the coronal ridge, where the head of the penis meets the shaft. For many men, the underside of this ridge is very sensitive. The second area is the frenulum. This area can be found on the underside of his penis, just below where the coronal ridge forms an upside-down V. If he is not circumcised, the frenulum forms a band of skin connecting the foreskin to underside of the head. This is similar to the band of skin under your tongue. If he is circumcised, the frenulum will be a bit of wrinkly skin over this V-shaped area.

2. Lube it up. The skin of his penis is sensitive, especially on the head, so if you're going to be rubbing his penis, you're going to need some kind of lubricant to prevent chafing. The easiest (and cheapest) lube is your own saliva. It's always handy, but it does dry out quickly, and if your mouth gets dry, there goes your lube supply.

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